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Do as you say and Random acts of generosity and kindness October 1, 2014

Filed under: Family,Healthy,Other — Desiree @ 2:26 pm
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I had many, many titles for this post.

Backseat Therapist
Little Humans Hear All
Love Thyself as much as you love others
Why can we all just get along… with ourselves?
…and the list could go on and on.

So, this will be a two-part post because while I was thinking of what to write a second, amazing thing happened to me this morning and it deserves to be shared as well.


We always hear that we should be saying body positive things to our children, mostly so they don’t grow up self-conscience about their bodies, but also so they can learn that body acceptance, of their own and other’s is equally important.

I’m so guilty of building up my daughter’s image of her body and self and tearing down my own in the very next breathe.

Such as:
Me: Hey Beautiful, I love your outfit today! You look really cute!
Jaizy: Thank you Mommy! You look really pretty, too!
Me: Oh, thanks, but I know you’re just being sweet. This is a really old shirt.

WTH? Why do we do that to ourselves. Not only that, but we are devaluing our children’s words!

(Scene: Driving down the street, a car looks like it’s going to pull in front of me)
Me: Oh my goodness! Don’t they know not to scare fat people!
Jaizy: Mommy, you’re not fat, you’re perfect.
Me, Oh, Aren’t you funny! I know that I’m fat, it’s ok!

Again, I just basically called her a liar. When in fact, I am perfect to her. She doesn’t know me any other way and she loves me just the way I am. And it’s not like me being fat is a secret. EVERYONE can see it!

Just last night:
(Scene: I was removing my makeup)
Jaizy: Mommy, you’re so pretty, you don’t even need makeup! I like you better without it!
Me: Thank you! But Mommy likes to wear makeup. It makes me feel better.

Almost… but not quite. Why do we have to justify it? And why would makeup make me feel better? I could have just left it at I like it. End of story.

So, my goal moving forward to to give value to her (and other’s) words to me. People probably aren’t lying to my face when they give me a compliment, right?

Basically, live what I say.

Ok, second:
While I was walking Jaizy to her classroom, the most amazing thing happened.
I came out to my car and started to leave because I had just enough time to get to work on time. I noticed a piece of white paper and thought nothing of it for a second. Then I took a closer look and saw it was an envelope, so I thought someone just dropped off a random note.
And then I looked closer.

It was an envelope and on the front it said: May God Bless You!

What on earth? I thought…

And while I was driving the .75 miles to work I opened the envelope and burst into tears because inside was cash.

Cash. Money. More than $20 less than $1000. (That’s all I’m going to say about that.)

But the timing… Perfect.

So while I’m figuring out how to accept compliments I will be thinking of how I can pay acts of kindness forward.


This is how I’ve been living my life lately: September 18, 2011

Filed under: Family,Other — Desiree @ 11:19 pm
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No time for haters!

And I’m ok with that.  For now.

And if the image doesn’t show up for you, don’t hate, just click!  Then all will be revealed.  I’m just too tired to figure it out right now.


Work, work, work. Work, work, work. September 5, 2011

Filed under: Family,Other — Desiree @ 8:55 pm
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I am just so not used to this.  Working full time.  It’s exhausting me.  I feel behind.  With sleep, wife duties, mom duties, me-duties.  I haven’t been eating as regularly as I had been. Adjusting to a new schedule.  I’m trying.  I’m eating decent choices, just not at regular intervals like I worked so hard to get into in the first place. And work schedule is changing again.  More than likely temporary, which means more change down the road.  But I’m rolling with it.  It’s good. I like my job.  I like where we moved to (not the house, but the area/town) and I know we have made the right decision. The boys start school tomorrow.  I know they are nervous.  Not only are they starting a new year, but new schools too.  And not just new schools, but in a totally new district.  They know just about no one.  They have met a few people, but don’t “know” anyone.  I hope they first day is kind to them.  Matthew technically doesn’t need to go tomorrow since it’s Freshman orientation day, but he’s going so he can become orientated with the school and I think, just a little, to be a support to Nathan, who IS a freshman. Caden is starting 8th grade tomorrow.  I can’t believe it.  He has been welcomed into the new district, over-throwing his expulsion.  I’m so grateful.  They took a look at his WHOLE transcript and school history and realized that what had happened (long, boring story) was an isolated incident, not 100% his fault and not worthy of the punishment he was given.  YAY!  So back to regular school he goes. A new change in our lives is that Jaizy is going to child care.  Without me.  This has been a hard decision to decide what is best for her, our family and my sanity.  I’m sure we (I) have made the right decision and I’m confident that she is going to LOVE it!  She will only be there for a few hours a day so that’s even better.  She is so excited to be going to “school” but will have to wait just one more day, because her first day isn’t until Wednesday. My back to school breakfast in the morning?  Oy, I have no idea what I’m making.  I was thinking about Cinnamon Rolls, but I just don’t think I have the time.  Maybe I can make the time…  Last year’s back to school breakfast was so good! It’ll be hard to meet or beat. Hope you all have a great back to school week!


Ok, so… April 2, 2011

Filed under: Other — Desiree @ 4:29 pm
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I’ve met 2 of my 4 March Resolutions!  YAY!  I’ve registered my domain and combined my two blogs.  So all the posts that you used to find at can now be found here.  I will be closing that account within the next 30 days!  I will be also attaching my new domain to this blog by then as well!  Yipee!

Now I have to just get caught up on my blogging and continue writing on a regular basis.  No problem! lol…

I messed around with different blogging sites and I really like all the features that are on so I won’t be switching, however staying does actually require me to pay to forward my domain.  I think that bites!  There are many, many blog hosting sites that do not require a fee to do that, but since I don’t really want to start over, so to speak, and mess with exporting and importing (again!) I will just suck it up and pay the $12 a year.

So… here’s to goal accomplishments and success!  (and winning!)  (Sorry, had to add that in, my kids have been driving me nuts playing a Charlie Sheen game and it’s stuck.  How do I get it out?)


Wow… March 30, 2011

Filed under: Other — Desiree @ 11:10 pm
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I suck!  I haven’t written a post since… December?  My goodness, where have my manners gone!  And the crappiest part is I really don’t have anything good to write right now!

Here are my excuses and you can be the judge if I’ve had a decent reason to not blog…

  1. I’ve been busy. (yeah, who hasn’t!)
  2. In December and January I was working 4 jobs.  (See, told you I was busy!)
  3. In the beginning of January I started having pain, which led me to have surgery the end of January.  (It’s hard to blog when you’re in pain)
  4. In February I missed my gallbladder so there was no way I could write about food.
  5. In March, I’ve been busy.  See, right back to that again!  But really, with 3 immediate family birthdays it’s just been nuts!

But seriously, not 4 jobs busy. I quit my Hallmark job this month for several reasons.  One, it was taking too much of my time.  (dumb, but really?) Two, they wanted me to start tracking personal time and mileage and not get paid for it.  Um… no thank you!  It’s none of their business where I go between my house and my job, especially if I’m not getting paid for it!

In all seriousness, I’ve gotten lazy.  I’m still menu planning around my budget.  Just not on the computer like I was.  And I’ll tell you why:  Jason is doing most of the cooking now.  GASP!  I know, right?!?!  Since I’ve started working back in a child care center I work too late to get dinner on the table at a reasonable time so it’s left to him.  Now, I menu plan, shop and prep as much as I can.  Usually before I go to work I’ve done whatever food prep I can so he can just throw it in the oven or in the pan to cook.  Or I get stuff into the crock pot.  Usually.

But oh my God, I miss fresh bread.  And I haven’t had time for that since I started working at the day care in October.   And I’m sorry for that!

And another reason (No, not an excuse!) is that I rarely actually get on my laptop.  My phone does basically everything so I basically use it for everything.  But blogging would be difficult so I don’t use it for that.  Even with Swype it would be crazy.

So… here are my end of March resolutions.  Hey, I can do what I want!

  1. Combine and into one blog.  It will go by
  2. Register as a domain.
  3. Have a fairly active blog that will be a combination of my zany family tales and some of the yummy food that I feed them.
  4. Get caught up on some of the stuff that I HAVE made and taken pictures of but never got on the laptop to actually get posted.

Is that ok?  If I do those things can I pretty please be forgiven?

What about if I add whipped cream and a strawberry on top?

Ok then!  I’ll see you on the other side of fabulous!


It's been awhile and nothing is as it should be. July 2, 2010

Filed under: Other,Recipe — Desiree @ 8:10 pm
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Life is crazy!  Did you know that?  I’m sure you do, because it seems I’ve heard that before somewhere…

Nothing is as it should be and hasn’t been for awhile.  First we were dealing with end of school activities and with 3 different schools, there were a lot of activities to deal with.  Throw in an ailing family member (who was able to make it to heaven just a week ago) and a couple of kids’ birthdays, I’m sure you can imagine how “un-normal” things have been.

On top of all the un-normal stuff, we’ve been working on normal stuff as well.  Getting the garden in, buying a fridge, getting tires on the van, getting used to summer vacation, wishing, hoping and bribing the rain to go A-W-A-Y and I’ve been working on a different format for my menu planning and all that jazz.  I think I’ve found something that works, but more about that later.

Tonight was a fun one though.  I’ve been recovering from a *fun* summer cold ( ahem, not fun!) and a boring dinner menu this week  (Really, what WAS I thinking?) so when Jason came home from work today, which by the way was NOT a normal work day for him so you can see, everything has been all messed up, I asked him what he wanted for dinner because I was not making what was on the menu.

He said:  I don’t know.

Oh, how I hate that answer!

(But I SO love to use it!)

So, after a while he was all, Maybe I want pizza?  And I jumped on it!  Grabbed the ads to see what was on sale, looked on the websites and got coupons and drove my butt to PapaMurphys.  I’m usually not a fan, but what the hell, it’s easy, I have coupons and it’s easy.  Oh, I said that already.

So, to jump around a bit, today was rainy.  Yuck.  It’s rained a lot lately and it feels more like April than July.  What’s up with that?  So I had black bananas in the freezer so I thawed them out and made Chocolate Chip Banana Banana Bread.  It was nummy.  Really nummy.  So nummy in fact that while I wasn’t looking and waiting for pizza number three to cook Jaidelyn took it upon herself to get a fork, knife and place to server herself up a GIANT piece!  I caught her right in the knick of time and sent her on her way, putting the plate on the counter.  Went to feed the pig and came back to no plate on counter.  “Umm… Jason?  Where’s Jaizy?”  “She’s in her room.”  “Does she have banana bread with her?”  “Oh shit!”  He and Matthew jump up and check and yup, there she is sitting at her little tea table enjoying a huge-ass piece of banana bread.


Pizzas number 1, 2 & 4


Pizza # 3 baking

Time-out Jaizy

Jaizy in Time-Out because...

Chocolate Chip Banana Banana Bread

MONDO piece of Banana Banana bread

So she did time in time-out.  But damn, it is cute how she is sneaky!  One day, I might be proud…

Chocolate Chip Banana Banana Bread

Makes 1 9×5 loaf pan.  To make 2, simply double recipe.

  • 2 cups all-purpose flour
  • 1 teaspoon baking soda
  • 1/4 teaspoon salt
  • 1/2 cup butter
  • 1/2 cup brown sugar
  • 2 large eggs, beaten
  • 2  cups mashed very overripe bananas
  • 1 cup of semi-sweet chocolate chips
  • 1  Preheat oven to 350°.
    2  Lightly grease 9 x 5 loaf pan, or spray with flour cooking spray.
    3  In large bowl, combine flour, soda and salt.
    4  In separate bowl, cream together butter and brown sugar.
    5  Stir in eggs, mashed bananas and chocolate chips until well blended.
    6  Stir banana mixture into flour mixture; stir just to moisten.
    7  Pour batter into prepared loaf pan.
    8  Bake in preheated oven for 60-65 minutes until a toothpick inserted into center of loaf      comes out clean.
    9  Let bread cool in pan for 10 minutes, then turn out onto a wire rack.
    10  Keep out of 3 year old’s hands and room.


    Woohoo! I won a prize June 6, 2010

    Filed under: Other — Desiree @ 8:16 pm
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    It’s so great to know that my sarcasm and laziness is actually good for something!

    I posted a comment on a great blog that I subscribe to and I won “Comment of the week!”

    You can check it out and subscribe to the blog too.